Don’t Let Money Ruin Your Marriage

In “Don’t Let Money Ruin Your Marriage”, by Kadlec (2008), he explains how we can take our marriage to a safe land. First, he starts with his experience with his wife and how he began to save $20 a week for their future. Then, the author talks about the needs of every couple and how they cause some money problems. Thus, the numbers of divorces are getting high when women start to work, even if she raises the security for the family, because she becomes more independent and forceful, which may give her the right to control the money. In addition, Kadlec gives some advice to couples that they should talk outside the home for coffee or lunch and try to discuss the problems to fix them, not to judge. Furthermore, people always buy many extra things that they do not need just because people saw them on TV or the internet. In contrast, our great grandparents had financial difficulties in their live and that is why we called them “the sandwich generation” which means, in that time, it is hard for couples to deal with their financial stress. They are like the meat between two Slices of bread. They worked hard to help their children to go to college. And they also, take care of their older parents. Consequently, couples should help each other to solve their problems and have a great life for themselves and their children.
I agree with the author’s point that two earners under one roof make both couples more able to pack up. However, people should think in different ways to solve their problems if it comes worse. If the couples see that their problems come worse when they work in same time, they should decide whether they need the wife job or not and then she can leave her job to get an even quiet life.
or at at least change her job - if her husband has a good job. I agree with the author’s point that said the rules of dealing with money are changed. In order to ensure their future, men and women both needs to have a job. For this reason, they should use money in priorities’ needs. In other words, they should not spend their money simply for everything they saw it in Television or Internet. They should but same limit to their spender.
In fact, our lives need some sacrifices to continue. However, we - husband and wife - should work together to solve our problems. Like what the author said, go outside the house for coffee or in a park to discuss problems. Also, we should not talk about any things when we are mad or angry until we feel more comfortable and are able to debate in an excellent manner. Because, when we are mad we always divided in other subject. We cannot control our speech.
In my experience, my husband and I always try to think about reducing mad feeling by respecting each other’s thinking. In the beginning, I always thought I am the right and he is the wrong but he also thinks that he is the right and I am the wrong. And that makes our problems increase. For this reason, we thought that it is better if we discuss the problems without thinking of who the right is and who the wrong is. Maybe we are all wrong or maybe we are all right or at less half right. So, from that time until now, we did not decide how the right is. Just we talk in general, like what we need from each other and what we expect. In addition, the problem should be kept inside the home without telling any family members or friends so the problem does not came bigger. Finally, I hope everybody can think that life is sweeter when you share your life with your partner.

Reference:
Kadlec, D. (2008, May). Don’t Let Money Ruin Your Marriage. Money, 44-46. Retrieved 5/22/08 from Ebsco database.

compering Saudi and U.S school:

in Saudi Arabia's schools, girls and boys are separate than etch other. they have a girl's school with women teachers. also, we have uniform depending in witch school they are. boys have also, their school and men teachers. and they where Saudi traditional clothes. in my country, we have two semesters in a year. in addition, we have the same class from morning 7 a.m until afternoon 12 or 1 p.m. depending in witch level and school you are. and also, we have many subjects and because of that we have different teachers. and they all come to our class. Except if we have a sport, cooking, or computer class. but in university it is a little bit different. we don't have to where a uniform clothes. In girl's university we switch classrooms. for my experiences, I think be separate is match better than to be together. So, every student can focus in their study not for relationship. witch is good for study environment. but maybe in Saudi Arabia we need to cheang the way that teachers work with students. because they almost have the idea "we are teachers and you are student" we should respect them and no friendly relation between teachers and students.